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Good evening!  I hope you are feeling…hmmm…I hope you are feeling, well, free.

There is a problem, however, isn’t there, dear reader?

How can we be free if we are spending all of our time in co-dependent relationships?

And what, dear reader, exactly IS a co-dependent relationship?  Do you know, dear reader, or do you just think that you know?

Yes, I am willing to bet there is not one person in ten thousand in Australia, the United States, and the UK, for example, who understands this and really, truly appreciates it – but you – dear reader – yes, YOU, are one of the lucky ones today.

You will be one in ten thousand, or even higher proportions of the totality of what is known as “humanity”, just by virtue of reading and understanding this blog!

Ah, but now I sense and feel my environment, and I detect an unwillingness on the part of some to examine the evidence honestly, yes, because of their attachments, their mental and emotional identification with the things that they, dear reader, think have value, because that is what they were trained to think, that is how they were educated, and indoctrinated.

Well, dear reader, perhaps you think Alison Hyperfairy is a lightweight.  A fairy.  Someone with no balls.  A powerless person, who spends all of her time inventing submissive scenarios so that she can abase herself upon the distant shores of self-destruction and humiliation…and it is indeed true, that Alison has travelled far in search of truth.

Look, this is a hard one to swallow, OK?  I know that.  Look, I love you all, truly, but we’ve all been brought up to think certain things are important that don’t really matter at all.

On this rock, many a person who would otherwise know and understand truth, and who could be useful to the Divine Feminine Energy of all Creation, flounders miserably, dear reader.

Even Mr Gurdjieff seemed to have a problem in this direction, dear reader (although there might be Gurdjieffians who would disagree).

Even To Mega Therion (The Great Beast) had a problem in this direction, otherwise why would he have divorced Rose, the Scarlet Woman, after 11 years of married “bliss”?

Why did he go through so many wives and Scarlet Women?

Yes, the answer is co-dependency, the state of bondage which prevents freedom.

Yes, because how many of us have pure motivation and intent – and how many of us are lost, chasing ego-based goals like more status, money, and power?

How many of us work truly for the Goddess, and not for human goals?

Yes, and how many of us would prefer to allow their partner to leave, to never see them again, to never experience their love again, rather than interfere with their true will?

Not many, hmmm?

But let us have no illusions.  I don’t like illusions.

Why do you think women like to marry above their current level of social status?

I’ll tell you – don’t say I don’t give it to you straight, dear reader.

It is because most females are interested only in money, power, security, conformity, status and possessions, dear reader.  Even a husband is a possession, dear reader.

Mr Aleister Crowley has described the nature of such women, in a remark which I would like to borrow.  The Beast once met a woman, on a boat, I think, whom he found somewhat odious.  In his autohagiography, The Confessions, he compared this woman to the ship itself.  He said that this woman was, “loaded to the gun-whale with a cargo of conceit.”

Yes, as Mr Gurdjieff even stated, the two biggest enemies of a conscious human being are known as Madame Vanity and Monsieur Self-Love (he was speaking in France, to French speakers).

Okay, dear reader, please understand that I love you and want the best for you.  That means that I want you to know how to extricate yourselves from co-dependency and to become truly free.

If you are a man, and you are “happily married”, it is entirely possible, that you are actually a pussy-whipped wimp, without any capacity for independent thought, feeling, and action.  Despite this, you may well be what is known as “a pillar” of the community, perhaps popular, perhaps with a good reputation.  You may be regarded as a “good man”, a “strong man”, a “loyal man”, or even a “manly man.”

If you are woman, and you are “happily married”, then it is entirely possible, that you are actually a status-seeking, power-seeking, gratification-seeking lump of selfishness and vanity and conceit, and that these qualities are things you, in your utter vacuousness, seek to nurture, letting them pour out of you on to the world.  For this insult, you think the world owes you something.

The fact is that your beloved “husband” or “wife” is no more special to your soul than an old derelict living on the streets in some big, anonymous city.

You see, differentiation – judgement – these things do not matter to love.

It all depends upon our perspective, doesn’t it?

I know someone who thinks he is open-minded.  Talk to him about these subjects and he becomes like a defensive clam, locked in his shell and unable to communicate.  There is something he doesn’t want to face.  He is a Cancerian, but that doesn’t excuse him, actually.  The Cancer Man will always choose defensive retreat when he feels threatened.

Whilst such retreat is a valid evolutionary strategy, like everything, there are two sides to it and in this case the other side says, “Overuse of this strategy is known as Denial.”

Please don’t make the mistake of the Cancer Man I have illustrated for you, dear reader.

I don’t expect this blog will increase my popularity.  I don’t expect this blog will do me any favours.  But hey, I’m not looking for popularity or favours.  I’m about truth, and nothing matters to me except truth.  That is, so far as I can tell, what the Goddess wants from me, and that is all I care about.

And if you happen to follow my blog, I hope it’s because you understand that this is what Alison Hyperfairy is about, and because you value that.  To be honest, if you don’t understand this about Alison Hyperfairy, then maybe you shouldn’t be reading this blog at all.  Please, don’t imagine Alison Hyperfairy wants you to read her blog if you’d rather be somewhere else!

Yes, beware!  There are some things which we would rather not face, and co-dependency is one of the most prominent examples!

Very well then, let us proceed.  In order to give some background to this, let us go back into history and pre-history, and see if we can find those factors which have allowed this situation to develop.

A man and woman, or indeed two people with the same gender, have no “cosmic instruction book” to follow when it comes to these matters.  There are no rules or laws regarding our relationships,  except those which are concerned with resonance and vibration, dear reader.

When we resonate to the vibration of another person, if we resonate harmoniously, then we like them; if we resonate disharmoniously, then we dislike them.  This doesn’t mean that we don’t love them though; remember everything takes place within an over-arching reality of love as the fundamental substance of everything which exists.  Love is, if you like, the key in which the tunes are written.

Where our vibrations are too much alike, it is like hitting the same key on a piano twice.  There’s no variations, no qualitative differences to make things interesting.  So sometimes vibrational similarity is not what we need.  Such relationships, however, are often formed because of this vibrational similarity creating the illusion that we have  a harmonious relationship.

Married people think that the world owes them respect, but it doesn’t.  To put it quite simply, if the people in this world who could act had the courage to do so, then they would show such people exactly what they think of their “marriages”.

You see, respect for the idea of marriage, respect for other people’s co-dependent relationships of contractual specialness, are a cultural expectation.  They are a socio-cultural norm caused by indoctrination and church dogma.

But as the great Terence McKenna once said, “Culture is not your friend.”

There is no sound or sensible reason to respect someone when they sell their individuality down the toilet for security, regular sex, money, power and social status.  When you put it like this, contempt seems like a more appropriate response.

And it is the same with de-facto’s, which is just marriage by another name.

I had a friend once who entered a co-dependent relationship.  This friend expected me to accept his partner, because he thought I was his friend, and that this simple fact incurred some kind of obligation upon me.  He never dreamed I would immediately reject him as a friend.

This “friendship” is now over.  If a friend of mine enters a co-dependent relationship, then the friendship is OVER, dear reader.  Simple as that.  That’s the only way I can show people exactly what I think of their “relationships”.

You see, if my friend wants me to accept, that I am less important to him than his partner, and that in any matter in which we both have a stake, that his partner will receive the benefit on account of this contract of “specialness”, which was nothing to do with me, then this “friend” expects too much.

The fact is that “the friend” has altered the understanding on which our own relationship was based, and undermined it, by entering a contract to treat a different person as more special than anyone else.

This is unacceptable, and a very good reason for the immediate termination of such a friendship; unless, of course, you have blindly accepted and uncritically absorbed the socio-cultural and religious dogma relating to marriage.

If more people behaved this way, more married people might start realising just how offensive and puerile their co-dependent specialness contracts really are.

The fact is, by making someone special, you devalue everybody else in your life.  And love doesn’t flow because you have placed a barrier around yourselves.

Am I making myself clear?  I hope so.  To function in this world hyperenergetically, you must be prepared to go further, much, much further than other people.

These are hard truths, dear reader.

So there’s no instruction book.  There’s only love, vibrational resonance, and free will.

As you know, a patriarchal conspiracy, based upon selfishness, is in control of the world, and has been for thousands of years.  Fourth dimensional beings can function as parasites, which feed off our vibrations.

Selfish fourth dimensional beings feed off the vibrations of egotism and its associated personality manifestations like arrogance, pride, greed, self-love, vanity and so on.

For this reason, the fourth dimensional beings who have seized power upon the Earth desired to have a world where egotism was the expected norm.  This would enable them to feed parasitically off the vibrations thus continually generated and released into the Earth’s etheric field.

On the physical plane, this egotism manifests as the desire for money, status, and power.  The parasitism can be found in the attitude of the born-wealthy that the world is like a bag of treasure from which it is their right to siphon whatever energies, usually in the form of money, that they like.  In practical terms, this means that wealthy people are parasites upon the rest of humanity, sucking our lifeblood in the form of money from the rest of us.

The trouble is that human beings, being inherently selfish creatures, like and enjoy their freedom and it is difficult to get them to restrict it for someone else’s purposes.  Unfortunately free beings are also those with whom it is least possible to form a parasitically dependent relationship.  And so the patriarchal forces needed to create an illusion.

Independent, free beings tend to resist the parasitism of others.  They will not get married, if they have children, they won’t necessarily feel any obligation towards them in terms of what is culturally expected regarding parenting; and furthermore, they don’t seem to like the acquisition of possessions.  They don’t allow culture to dictate their actions and behaviour.

The fourth dimensional parasites allow their subjects to make money through the banking system and corporatism disguised as democracy.  In order to make money, they have to get beings to play their role within this system.

Yes, they must get these beings borrowing money, so that they can make more.  Every loan represents new money created by a bank.  All existing paper currency is debt – promissory notes.

Furthermore, they must get these people to spend the money, so they will need more and more of it all the time.  This enables the “work-trap”, whereby the formerly free, independent so-called man accepts a position of slavery to this system, in order that he might obtain the money he needs to live and support his family.

And again, it is desirable if this man is locked into spending his money so securely that he can never get out.  A mechanism which facilitates this is desirable to fourth dimensional parasites, who thereby obtain a never ending supply of negative being energy.  This mechanism is known as “marriage”, “family”, and “children”.

A man trapped into supporting his marriage, family, and children is trapped forever on a never ending treadmill of slavery.  The woman who marries him and has his children is similarly trapped, and the children – well, the children represent a new generation of fodder, indoctrinated by that system of dogma distribution known as the “school”, and trained to follow in the footsteps of Mummy and Daddy.

Yes, more supermarket shoppers for the Patriarchy and their agenda of parasitism.

Try to tell a man this, though, and his emotional and psychological attachment and identification with ideas about marriage taught to him as a child will prevent him from seeing the truth of it.

But the Patriarchy, back in the early days before the full establishment of control, had a problem.  How to get people to embrace marriage, family, children?  How to trap them in this system, to enable them to parasitically manipulate it from the money end and feed off such people?

Religion to the rescue!  For people have a susceptibility, and this susceptibility is belief; what a person can be made to believe conditions all of his activity and behaviour.

Thus we have the perversion of the Christian religion, and other patriarchal, monotheistic religions, which have sought to perpetuate a dogma of marriage and children as essential to a religious life, a life lived in the service of Mr God.

These are the exoteric religious beliefs of most people.  However esoterically, we may be able to discern the reality behind the false appearances, to see how this dogma really developed.  In the sacred texts of Judaism, which are partially shared with Christianity, even though, of course, under Christian beliefs, Jews are destined for hell, we see that Adam’s first wife was Lilith, but she wouldn’t let him get on top, as he did when he was fucking his herd animals.  (Adam was into bestiality and regularly fucked his sheep and goats.  I wonder if he had a favourite sheep or goat for this purpose?)

So Adam and Lilith parted, and Adam found another wife, Eve.  This one was docile and passive.  She got on her back and the rest is history.  Children soon followed.

The story of Adam and Eve, their marriage and children is a mind-control template for patriarchal parasitism.  It works by making everyone believe that marriage represents something ordained from on high.  It denies freedom to females.  In fact it is just a way of turning people into slaves so that they spend their lives producing wealth for the parasites to siphon off.

Hence the dogma of marriage which is associated with the Christian religion and others.  Hence the suppression of all knowledge about Lilith and her experience.  Lilith, you see, encourages women to be independent and free.

We are used to those who identify co-dependency with situations in which there are drug or alcohol dependencies and emotional dependencies.  We aren’t used to someone who comes along and tells us that it makes little difference and that all relationships are co-dependencies unless they are Objectively Real Relationships, in which all relationship is governed by what is happening here and now, in the present, and nothing more.

Love is.  It cannot be qualified.  To say I love my family more than I love anyone else is  nonsense.  Love can’t be divided like that.  This is the Truth.  You must accept this.

Love is.  To say I am married because I love my partner is to say that you want to make ownership and possession a criterion of love.  This is nonsense.

Love is.  To say I am married for the sake of my children is to say that love of your children obligates you to sell your individuality.  This is nonsense.

Nothing I have said here, affects anything regarding the natural obligations which people incur towards their children.  I’m not advocating separations, divorces, or single parent families.  I’m advocating love, and that’s all.  And that means your responsibilities towards your child do not mean that you have to sacrifice your individuality with a marriage.

People have been indoctrinated with this nonsense about marriage for thousands of years and it shows.  Most people simply will not look at this because it is too confronting.

The reason I say that all of these relationships are co-dependent is simply this.  Laws relating to marriage and defacto relationships are created by governments.  This means that in entering such contracts, one acknowledges the role of the government in one’s relationship.  That is, every marriage contract is actually a three way contract between you, your partner and the government, which created the contractual law under which your contract is signed.

This is deeply offensive to any conscious person.  Why do something like this?  Much better indeed, is the private pact – a private, personal agreement between you and another person, in which the government is NOT involved, since it is none of the government’s business, would be the sensible way for conscious people to go.

If you are unable to form a private pact, then this is probably because you or your prospective partner are co-dependent with the State, unable to do anything in your lives without the government overseeing it and giving its approval.  This is truly pathetic – the so-called man and woman, getting married, are selling their lives and their individuality down the drain for a lifetime of conformity, slavery, and co-dependency.

These cannot be genuine marriages.  These are the kind of things that unconscious believers in the dogma of marriage do, but they are not what conscious people would choose to do.  If they do so choose, then they are unlikely to be conscious.

However, these relationships are great for producing new generations of supermarket shoppers, which supports the corporate, fascist agenda of our governments.

Love doesn’t mean ownership.  Responsibility to your child is not the same thing as sleeping in the same bed, or living in the same house, as the other parent.  Nor does it NOT mean those things.  They’re unrelated, just aspects of how we view our obligations under traditional marriage dogma.

The only thing that matters is love.

Where love governs our relationships, everything else will look after itself.

If you are in a co-dependent relationship, it may represent quite a challenge to get out of it.  Most people don’t care enough.  But if I told you the survival of your soul depends upon this, would you feel differently?

Love lets go.  Love does not seek to possess.  Love takes what it gets, here and now.  Love doesn’t plan.  Love doesn’t own anything.  Love doesn’t want anything from anyone.  Love is, beyond all categorisations.

What is a relationship that is not co-dependent then?  This is the question.

Such a relationship exists in the here and now between yourself and another person.  That is where it is real.  That is the only place it is real.  Respect for free will decrees that love lets go.

Thus everything must be governed by free will.  You enter a relationship freely.  You leave it freely.  Where nature incurs a natural obligation, such as the responsibility of parenthood, you accept it of your own free will.    Ultimately, you are still free.

Love is.  Where love is, there is honour, truth, honesty, sincerity, and other being qualities which are truly consonant with love.  But none of this presupposes anything else.

A marriage is a relationship of specialness.  It is, essentially, a contract stipulating your obligation as part of the relationship to treat the other person as more special than all other human beings.  But your partner is not more special than other human beings.  There’s only love and that’s how an objectively real person must see it and that’s all.

Therefore marriage as we know it is just a form of social control which allows for patriarchal parasitism.

If you love someone, you may want to be with them.  If they love you, they may want to be with you.  If you can agree, you can form a partnership.  This partnership manifests because of love.  It is not a contract.  It is not a guarantee you won’t love anyone else.  It is not restrictive.  It’s what love is meant to be.  It’s everything love is and ever was meant to be.

If you like, you can formalise this contract into a private pact as suggested above.  If you do this, under no circumstances allow any third parties, especially but not limited to the government, to interfere in any way.  Nor should your private pact act like a barrier, sealing you and your partner away from interacting with the world.

A couple of additional points need to be mentioned.  The first is that your private pact must be exactly that – private – we are most definitely not talking about something a “lawyer” could get their hands on.

The second point relates to what are known as “pre-nuptial agreements”.  If anything could be worse than marriage itself, it is marriage with one of these.  I will not go into it greatly, but suffice to say marriages with such agreements combine the very worst things – contract law, the government as third party, lawyers, and suspicion that your partner will betray you as evidenced in the lack of trust which leads to the agreement in the first place.

Pre-nuptials are for goons.  If you cannot trust your partner regarding your money and assets and other things, then why on Earth are you marrying them?

Love your partner, then, unconditionally.  Love them, even if all they want is to leave you.  Love them, even if they tell you they are physically attracted to someone else.  Even if they tell you they want to have sex with someone else.  Even if they enjoy having sex with this other person more than they like having sex with you.   Even if they abuse you.

If they abuse you, continue to love.  This doesn’t mean that you have to stay with them or anything else.  We are only speaking of love.  Non-co-dependent love.

When love rules our relationships, rather than co-dependency, we are free.  Free to love, free to come and go, free to be ourselves.

Dear reader, how can you become who you are if you are subject to a marriage contract which stipulates that your individuality must serve an agenda of specialness which is not based in reality?

You can’t.

When I think about my boyfriend,

And I think of how much I love him,

It makes me want to be with him,

It makes me want to fuck with him.

But if he says to me, I want to do something else,

Then it’s incumbent upon me, to accept this with an open heart.

If he doesn’t want to be with me, then surely the Goddess will be there,

Assuring me that everything is alright.

After all, no-one has any advantage over any other, for this is hyperenergetic law.

My love is worth the same as his love.

There’s no use fretting.

The strong will always tread upon the weak.

The state of mind we must reach is exemplified by Rabbi Yeshua

It is, quite simply, the faith that can move mountains.

Three dimensional life is an illusion

What’s more important, is to hold to the values of love.

Love is not a formula, it exists only here and now.  Everything is made of it and everything is governed by its laws.

Do you believe this?  Or do you pretend to believe it, while still hanging onto to your co-dependency and need for security?

Faith.  This is the final message for those whose need for security will not allow them to take these spiritual steps.  If you love, then how can the cosmic laws relating to karma and balancing of deeds ever be used against you?  They can’t.  But how many of us know this with the kind of self assurance that is required?

Essentially, getting married is a way of saying that:

• you don’t have the faith required for a private pact
• you don’t love your partner enough to trust them without the backing of divorce and separation law
• you believe it’s OK to have the government as a third party in your bed, in your life, in your family, and in your relationship
• you have swallowed the dogma about the necessity for marriage
• you have a need for security, money, status, and power
• you don’t trust Universe to supply you with everything you need
• you are prepared to gain an unfair advantage, under profane law, over other people
• you are prepared to devalue all the other people in your life for the sake of this marriage
• you are prepared to treat as special someone who is just another human being.

Well, dear reader, this blog has reached a natural conclusion.  It is not our relationships that need fixing, it is our attitude that somehow government is always benevolent and there is no problem in letting government into our lives.

Because there is a problem, a big one, and it’s called co-dependency.

Be free.  This means having courage.  This means seeing marriage and defacto relationships for what they are.  This means private pacts, independence, love, and truth in our relationships.

Given this, we might have a reasonable expectation of healthy relationships, healthy private parenting pacts, healthy intimacy, healthy emotional objectivity and proud independence for both parties.

Kahlil Gibran, in The Prophet,  said of marriage:

“Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.

For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.

And stand together yet not too near together:

For the pillars of the temple stand apart,

And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”

Yes, be independent within your relationships.  Kahlil Gibran knew about the necessity for this, and so should you, dear reader.  However, he was writing in a time when it was less clear that marriage was also a co-dependency arrangement with the government.

That’s all I have to say today, dear reader.

Thank you for coming to my blog, and as usual, I hope you can get something out of it, even if your suspicious mind is keeping a little of yourself to yourself, in case Alison Hyperfairy is not trustworthy.

Alison cannot ask you to make her worthy of your trust.  This is something you must decide for yourself.

Lotsa love,

Alison Pansy Hyperfairy

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